I was chatting to a newish distributor last night, who asked me if I understood why his in-laws were making him feel silly for trying to improve his life with his network marketing business?
I don’t know his in-laws so asked him what they were like. He said “well that’s the thing – they’re a bit weird themselves”. I asked whether he aspired to be like them – to which he said “no way!”
There was no other answer to it than the fact that mad people have a way of making you think it’s you that’s mad! There’s zillions of examples of that in the world! I always just laugh internally at these types of people as you should never take too seriously the odd manner of people you don’t want to be like – and this is probably the key point. He laughed and agreed and that seemed to settle his mind a little.
We discussed it further and established some other reasons include:
A) not invented here syndrome – it wasn’t our idea so we are not going to like it
B) it’s making us think about ourselves and our own situation, and we don’t like what we see
C) we don’t particularly want to move out our comfort zone so we will try and hold-back anyone else that tries
And D) we are secretly happy having our daughter still ‘need’ is a bit – if hubby makes this work then we might not be so influential in her life.
This is not a post against in-laws… Some are deeply supportive. The same points could apply to friends, neighbours, work colleagues etc.
But just something to be conscious of particularly if you feel you’re being judged wrongly.